It’s funny we all had reasons for not going the first time to see the author. Looking back on one of the reasons I didn’t go was I had resistance to breaking up into small groups, with strangers and doing some exercises together.
This didn’t feel comfortable for me at the time. The funny thing was I had a totally different view of what “groups” were going to really be like. Doing the group exercise was amazing and fun.
Let's be open to stepping outside our comfort zone a bit, it can be enlightening and fantastic!
When my Hubby looked up the author events, I felt his intuition was leading him and I was glad he followed though.
Let’s be open to our intuition and explore the possibilities.
Deep self-limiting beliefs play a big part in low confidence, self-belief and self-esteem.
We have laser focus on many failures and beliefs but what if we challenge them when we hear a negative thought come up.
Inspired by: How to Build Your Belief in Yourself by Amy Morin LCSW, posted Oct 18, 2016: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201610/how-build-your-belief-in-yourself
Lets choose to challenge harmful thoughts, follow my savvy ideas and build my self-belief.
While on line I found a comment about confidence. Another word that was used for it was self-belief. It’s been on my mind for a while. I knew I wanted to take some time to explore this. Here’s a definition of it:
“Self-belief is that positive feeling you have inside that you are capable of anything. You feel empowered, confident and fueled with virility in the face of challenges and problems.” From a blog on Mindvalley.com called: 5 Positive Things That Can Happen If You Have Self-Belief on January 15, 2018
What if we can cultivate our self-belief and help ourselves move forward on our journey by looking for optimistic evidence to support it.
Let’s look for optimistic evidence and build our self-belief.
part 1 Self-Belief
It’s important to fit in tapping, some ways are when we are:
We live in a busy world full of obligations and distractions. Finding time for things we need and want to do is important.
One of the ways I grow is to read. I wanted to read a book but I was busy. I looked on line and they had a short version of it and downloaded it. It feels much more achievable. My hubby has a long work commute and he often listens to audio books during this time. I think these are great ways to fit something like this in.
It’s great to have options. Thinking outside the box to fit things in can open the door for more joy in our lives.
On the other side of boundaries, being mindful of others boundaries is important too.
What is your focus for growth this year? This can be personal or professional.
Believe in me and money mindset are my choices. By just being open to these I have been pleasantly surprised by how opportunities have started to show up in my life.
Let’s be open to a focus or two for 2019
What do we do when people don’t understand our boundaries and keep pushing on them and it's uncomfortable? The three “H’s” of this are:
a. How many times do I need to repeat boundary?
b. How am I going to respond?
c. How will I handle the situation if person won't stop pushing?
It’s good to know our boundaries, hold them kindly & when needed speak firmly.
Boundaries can be complicated if we don’t learn and understand them.
When I was younger, I would state a boundary and when it was pushed on, I would often fold over like a used paper bag. It took me a long time to really grasp, my boundary is my responsibility to maintain. It got easier with time and it began to feel empowering.
Let’s maintain our boundaries, feel empowered and grow our relationships.
The other day I was writing up notes for an upcoming group. They wanted me to do something on clutter.
When I was writing about this some unexpected anger came up around how I’d been treated by another. I realized I needed to release some anger and forgive the other person. Sometimes our expectations of clutter or something else doesn’t match another’s and it’s better to let anger go since it hurts us more carrying it around.
Let’s honor where we are at, release anger and forgive others (when we can).
Take some time to write down a few issues or people you need to release some feelings and forgive. I encourage you to start releasing it. Here are a few ideas:
It’s important to find ways to let go of the feelings holding you back from forgiveness that works for you.
When facing fears remember to set yourself up for success and be proud of what you do no matter how big or small it is.
It’s a journey and it’s worth it.
When facing my fear and going for it,
We can create great adventures while facing our fears.
Even though speaking my truth during the confrontation still feels like a success. I felt a bit unsettled about it later.
I tapped and talked about it. I was pleased I had improved on speaking my truth and I realized there was room for growth. At times I could say less.
Let’s remember to keep it simple when needed while speaking our truth gently.
Recently someone confronted me about something they thought I was doing and they misunderstood. A few years ago, I would have frozen, felt mad and bad. This time I spoke my truth kindly and the person understood.
During the Holidays we need to speak up at times in a kind way. When we do this it can bring understanding, possibly diffuse a situation and there can be more peace at this time with family and friends.
Have you ever had a cupboard that was a disorganized disaster and you felt overwhelmed opening the door, I have. On my organizing and releasing journey I finally tackled it and was reminded:
When you get the urge to clean up a space dive in and you’ll be amazed at the results.
What are some areas that you treat your dear friends and family better than yourself and how can you look at this differently?
Let’s remember to be a good friend to ourselves.
Sometimes emotions can come up about ourselves and we need to let them go. Here’s a quick tapping inspired by Silvia Hartman’s Energy EFT. See points below marked by lotuses
Take three deep breaths and say I want more good friend to me energy
Start tapping on thumb point and say more friend energy to me
Take another deep breath move to the next point and repeat this through all the points on the picture below. After the last point (karate chop point) take three deep breaths.
Way to go on tapping!
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