Going through divorce can be a painful process. Take time to recover and grow through this and know there’s light at the end of the divorce tunnel.
I know this because after 20+ years of marriage, on a dark and dreary night, I was served with divorce papers, right before the Holidays. It felt devastating to have 20+ years of marriage ending. I wish I would have had the tools I share to walk through it easier (I did have other tools).
Good things happened, friends and family were there for me. I started a new career and it led to what I’m doing now. New friends and a mentor showed up and when the time was right, a great man came into my life. We became friends and then more and we married in 2018.
There’s life after divorce, be open to change, growth and be ready for revival!
Here’s a link to a program that can walk you through divorce easier.
Have there been experience’s in adulthood that felt like a grown up experience? Examples:
Here’s one of mine, during this year I plan to test drive a new platform for my newsletters. In order to do this, I needed to role to a different email (email@example.com) and it had a grown up feeling to it and was an empowering experience.
What about yourself, any grown up experiences you'd like to share?
We all have experienced uncomfortable emotions in life and it’s best to release these and feel lighter in 2020.
Tapping on the karate chop point and say this 3 times: Even though I feel uncomfortable feelings from 2019 (_______or you can put in what you want to tap on here instead) I love and accept myself
Tap on round points gently saying this out loud:
These uncomfortable 2019 feelings
Take a few deep breaths and tap on round points gently alternating saying:
These uncomfortable 2019 feelings
I choose to release them
Take a few deep breaths. Tap until you feel better, if something specific comes up tap on that too.
Then tap the round points gently saying out loud added (choose one) bliss, peace or calm.
When focusing on the unhappy or irritating we can feel grumpier. I was reminded of this after visiting a family member in a hospital. I can kind of laugh about it now, but at the time it felt big. Then I had a conversation with a person starting with a bit of grumping about hospital experience and my mind gave me a wake-up call:
Let’s acknowledge unhappy, irritating and grumpy emotions, look for the humor in it and keep our main focus in the happier zone.
Recently a family member was very ill and things didn’t look good. I asked a friend, that’s family, for wisdom and she shared some (it was amazing) and it jogged a memory about a class assignment I had in college.
It was an uncomfortable and kind of morbid assignment. I had to ask someone to write a eulogy as if I had just passed way. Then we read them out loud to the class. It was eye opening to hear how my friend that’s family felt about me.
I was glad for the experience. We often don’t say the things to the important people, what they mean to ourselves while their still here. This opened the door to write and read something like this to my family member by saying what was on my mind and heart in a kind way. It tied up some loose ends and reminded me of some fun memories.
Be open to saying what’s on your mind kindly (if possible), while they’re still here.
Using mantras can be supportive in different ways and feel empowering. Here are a three:
When a boundary is being pushed on by another
When in an uncomfortable situation
Making a change – reminder
Using mantras has assisted myself and others and are a great self-support. Come up with a few mantras, use them when needed and feel empowered.
If your walking through divorce on a tight budget but need some tools or ideas for it to be easier:
There’s a lot of information out there to assist people walking through divorce.
If you’re short on time but need to tap:
feelings, events and more.
Let’s plan a head, when needed, it adds irresistible joy and ease in our lives.
By Katrina L-A Davis, from: KD's Adventure
Does life feel overwhelming and full of stress?
This eBook is about using skills to thrive instead of struggling to tread water. Imagine if you:
You’ll explore step by step stress release options and no-brainer planning to release different kinds of stress. By releasing stress our lives can thrive!
When rough things come up, give yourself time to acknowledge feelings, tap and process it. Then pull up the big pants, figure out some solutions to move forward and start taking small, doable action steps.
With acknowledgement, tapping and processing, we can move forward!
It’s been enjoyable to have the amazing thoughts of Louise Hay’s, I Can Do It 2019 Calendar. Here’s one from April 23rd I wanted to share with you:
“I love and approve of myself through all the ups and downs of my life.
All is truly well in my world.“
Some people might wonder what life changes are; laid off, going through a work reorganization, end of relationship, a move, even a happy event like getting married is a life change and (blending families, wedding event) can create stress.
What are some feelings you experienced when you went through a life change?
Some past ones I’ve felt were; fear, loneliness, sadness, grief and even a bit of betrayal. Glad I have tools to help with this.
What are some of yours?
Have you ever had someone create a new boundary you were irritated with?
When this happens, we own the irritation.
Unpacking this a bit and tapping about it can dial down these uncomfortable feelings and open the door for more options.
When unpacking failures and mistakes I realized that using “mistakes” was less uncomfortable than failing. We can learn and move forward when we make mistakes or failures.
When I look below the failure or mistake at the feelings, embarrassment comes up for me. It’s something I don’t enjoy experiencing. I’d like to just own my mistakes and failures, learn from them and move on. We’re not perfect and we are going to have embarrassing moments. We are human!
When we have more information then we can tap on the different parts of it, release what’s holding ourselves back, grow from it and move on.
The world will look different when we do the change within. Tapping and KD’s Adventure has opened the door for me to work on my inner self in different ways.
Let’s be open to inner healing, change and see the joy in our world more.
It is there, we need to be open to it.
Here’s a great article on EFT and staying in the positive when others around us aren’t.
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