It’s funny when I’m listening to others about an issue in their lives, many questions come to mind to ask to get them thinking. This is the life coach coming out in me. Although when it’s my issue, they can fade to the back at times. One question that has been helpful is:
If this was a friend’s issue and they were open to a question to get them thinking, what would it be?
This often movies me forward.
Talking with people at times feels uncomfortable for shy people including myself. 3 ways to start connecting in small ways are:
Reach out with small steps and work your way up to other kinds of people encounters.
Inspiration from: Mandy Kloppers https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/ten-tips-for-shy-people-meet-friends.html and Kevin Rhea https://shyandfree.com/
Sometimes solely navigating a project or life event, such as divorce, is easy and other times it feels overwhelming and possibly even scary.
Be open to finding and using resources to move forward on projects and life events. This makes projects and life events, like divorce, feel less overwhelming and more doable.
For many years the story I told myself was, I can’t speak. Speaking to others is something I’ve struggled with but here’s how I did it at Toastmasters:
When I need “yes I can evidence,” the speeches done at Toastmaster are some of my experiences to give me a new story to tell myself. “I can speak.”
When you have things you’re afraid to do, tap, learn and take one small step at a time, growing your “yes I can evidence.”
In the midst of difficult times, it’s helpful to have easy actionable ways to address issues step-by-step. How to reduce unpleasant feelings, plan ahead for stress and self-care, understand your boundaries and say yes and no with more confidence. Each chapter walks through ways to address these and more issues. Through these time proven ways, you can restore your inner calm when you need it the most. Reducing Fear & Stress In Difficult Times link
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What’s one action you’ve done recently you’re proud of yourself for? It can be any size too, getting out of bed today or start writing that book you've wanted to start for a while. Way to go!
Give yourself a high five and here’s one from me too!
What’s one action you’ve done recently you’re proud of.
Give yourself a high five and here’s one from me too!
When we have success in our lives small to large let’s celebrate them! This is a great battery recharge, and can bring us joy and more.
On 2/2/20, Women’s Divorce Reflection Journal was on page one of the Hottest New Releases List for divorce.
Wow, it feels good to have success and share them!
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We might have had experienced times in our lives where we were reprimanded for sharing something we did, we were proud of.
Being excited and saying “I got an A on my spelling test” and a person reprimanded you, ex; stop bragging! Often when this happens the other person has an issue or trigger showing up.
When sharing successes in a positive way and someone is upset about it, remember it's their trigger. It's great to share our success with others and enjoy them too.
It’s great to celebrate success and share them. Sometimes we need to understand about what’s the difference between bragging and sharing successes. Here are a few ideas on this:
Keep it about yourself – “I got an A on my history test” or “Wow, I did better than I thought I was going to do on my test”
Don’t compare it to another persons
When we keep it about ourselves, we are celebrating our success in a kind way. Let’s share, celebrate and keep it kind!
What are 3 things to release to improve your life? Ideas;
When I was researching things about divorce, I ran across divorce parties and I’d heard about these before. It’s something I didn’t do exactly when I walked through divorce but I did celebrate being divorced when I was ready.
Life changes, like divorce, is an opportunity to celebrate the freedom to move into a new chapter in life, with possibilities for many new opportunities and to grow and thrive.
We celebrate many things and when ready, celebrate it in a way it feels good to you!
Often, it can be easy to lose track of time, especially if I’m doing a creative project. A few ways I've improved this are:
It feels great to accomplish what I want to in a day and managing my time is a great way to do this.
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A while ago I ran across Mindful Living Card Deck by Elisha Goldstein, PhD, with 56 Practices in it. When it arrived, I looked through them but wasn’t sure how I was going to use them in my life.
In January it came to me to pick one a week each week and implement something from the card. Today’s card was titled: Fun with Impermanence and the words that stood out for me was “Practice the art of letting go.”
This spoke to me. I often want to hold on to things I don’t need. This week I am going to release at least one thing.
What’s one thing you’re willing to release this week?
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What's one, no brainer step I can take today to move closer to finishing up something I want to complete?
We can run into old messages and blocks that stop us in our tracks and lives. Some tips to assist with resistance and blocks are:
Give yourself the gift of making new joyful memories, releasing blocks and old uncomfortable feelings.
In your life have you experienced something that holds you back from taking an action in the now. One of my words for 2020 is (fun) movement (more of it). I had an interesting experience with it today. I made a goal to just get up and dance with Body Grove, it didn’t matter how long. Just turn it on and groove.
At first, I pulled up the site and started getting lost in the choices but I caught it and just chose. As I was walking toward the TV and I saw the person dancing, I thought “what was I thinking!” One of the old messages I felt in my body was something like, I can’t dance but I walked past these and just listened, watched and started moving. It didn’t matter how I looked or what my body was or wasn’t doing. I was moving for my health and well-being. The tears started to flow; from past uncomfortable dancing experience’s and making new joyful ones. In my mind I was a graceful moving woman in flowing silky fabric.
I moved, felt success and released tears resistance holding me back from fun movement. The tears continued to flow even after this experience. I tapped, continued to feel good about my movement success and look forward to more of them.
What are somethings holding you back from what’s important to yourself? Take some time to free write on these today. Downloadable Free Write PDF below picture.
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