Change can feel stressful and difficult. Set some time aside to:
When you look at the “big Change” start separating it into smaller ones and smaller ones until it's no brainer doable. This easy practice reduces stress by making change easier.
Here are some ways to self-care while grieving:
Add tapping or holding a point to any of these to make them become more powerful.
There are ups and downs with grief, sometimes a memory will pop into my head that brings me a smile or laugh and other times tears come. Birthday of the deceased or the day they passed can stir grief up. For myself I look forward to the days when grief has ebbed and I can remember the passed person with joy, laughter and peace.
Be kind to yourself and take care when grieving.
For a long time, I thought grieving was for a passing of a person or fur baby. Since then I’ve learned grieving comes when there’s a loss whether it’s a loss due to a passing or an ending of a friendship or marriage or even a way of life.
Be kind and accept yourself as your processing and grieving.
It’s funny when I’m listening to others about an issue in their lives, many questions come to mind to ask to get them thinking. This is the life coach coming out in me. Although when it’s my issue, they can fade to the back at times. One question that has been helpful is:
If this was a friend’s issue and they were open to a question to get them thinking, what would it be?
This often movies me forward.
Talking with people at times feels uncomfortable for shy people including myself. 3 ways to start connecting in small ways are:
Reach out with small steps and work your way up to other kinds of people encounters.
Inspiration from: Mandy Kloppers https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/ten-tips-for-shy-people-meet-friends.html and Kevin Rhea https://shyandfree.com/
When walking through change, don’t let the “can't do's” get in the way of the "can do's". Be on the look out for can do's and just do them when they come up.
When I was going through my divorce, I felt stressed out, devastated, scared and many other feelings. I needed to process some of these to clear space for happiness to start showing up more in my life. There are many ways to start doing this. Here are a few tips:
Make room for more happy, focus on it and let it grow.
Motivate yourself one step at a time.
Choose one small step to do on a project and just do it!
Then repeat. Small steps add up to bigger ones.
The name of my first Udemy Course, I am creating is
(drum roll please, LOL):
Divorce Care: Effective Practices To Feel Better
Do a kind gesture for someone you care about. It can be a:
It feels great to do a kind gesture.
When you feel isolated or lonely, reach out to someone via:
Video Call via Zoom, Skype or Facebook
Or other way to connect on line
Reach out and enjoy the connection!
What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you say: I love myself but_____________(fill in the blank)
Tap on this with this fill in the blank script.
When you catch yourself thinking of an unhappy past event here are some tips to bring yourself out of it:
Look at something around you
You can put these three tips together and use it as a super tool.
Have you ever noticed feeling nervous or fear coming up and you realize your thinking of what ifs for a future event? When we spend time thinking about unpleasant outcomes of a future event, it brings on nervous or fearful feelings. Find ways to bring yourself back to the present. A few ways are:
Focus on your breathing
Connect with one of your senses
Staying present is a great way to dial down fear and nervousness.
Meditation for some is easy and others it feels harder. There are many ways to do this, it just looks different. Some ideas for unique meditations are:
If you want to meditate, be kind to yourself and find a simple meditation style that works for you.
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